Worry and sadness are part of the human condition and life. Our life consists of a series of moments and emotions. There are two extreme moments: the joy and happiness that fills our heart with a smile and the other peak, a series of darkness that plunges us into worry and sadness. Between all this is real life: the highs, the lows, the mundane and boring, the sweetness and light. In these times, the believer must establish a connection to God.
How to deal with Sadness?
The believer must be honest and strong in his/her faith. When the happiness and joy of life fill our mind and heart, we must not forget that it is a blessing from Allah; equally, when we are faced with worry and sadness, we must understand that this too from God, even though at first glance we may not see the blessing.
ALLAH is the Wisest and the Most Just. Whatever condition we face, and no matter what we are forced to confront, we must open our eyes to the fact that God knows best what is good for us. Though we shy away from facing our worries and fear, we may hate something good for us and desire something that can only lead to ruin and damnation.
كُتِبَ عَلَيْكُمُ ٱلْقِتَالُ وَهُوَ كُرْهٌ لَّكُمْ ۖ وَعَسَىٰٓ أَن تَكْرَهُوا۟ شَيْـًٔا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ ۖ وَعَسَىٰٓ أَن تُحِبُّوا۟ شَيْـًٔا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَّكُمْ ۗ وَٱللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ
“Fighting has been enjoined upon you while it is hateful to you. But perhaps you hate a thing, and it is good for you; perhaps you love a thing, and it is bad for you. And Allāh knows while you know not.”
Our Creator planned the life of this world to maximize our chances of living a blissful life in the Hereafter. When we face trials, they help us grow and mature into human beings who can function effortlessly in this transient world.
Names of Allah In Worry And Sadness:
In times of sorrow and stress, contemplating the names of Allah can bring great relief. It can also help us focus on being calm and patient. It is important to understand that although the believer is encouraged not to thrash about in grief and anguish or to complain about the stresses and problems, he is allowed to turn to God and supplicate to Him and to ask Him for relief from sadness.
Human beings are frail. Our tears fall, our hearts break, and the pain is sometimes almost intolerable. Even the prophets, whose connection to ALLAH was unbreakable, felt their hearts constrict in fear or pain. They, too, turned their faces to God and begged for relief. However, their complaints were surrounded by pure patience and acceptance of whatever fate God had decreed.
Allah Love those Who Show Patience In Worry And Sadness:
When Prophet Jacob despaired of ever seeing his sons, he turned to God and asked for his help. He knew very well that God loves those who are patient.
قَالَ إِنَّمَآ أَشْكُوا۟ بَثِّى وَحُزْنِىٓ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ وَأَعْلَمُ مِنَ ٱللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعْلَمُونَ
He said, “I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allāh, and I know from Allāh that which you do not know.”
Patience means accepting what is not in our control. In times of sadness and difficulty, surrender yourselves to the will of God then you will find relief beyond measure.
This does not mean that we sit back and let life pass by. No! It means that we struggle to please God in sadness and all life matters.
However, when things don’t go as we want, even when it seems that fears and sadness are pushing us down, we accept what God has decreed and continue striving to please Him. Patience is hard work; it does not always come naturally or easily. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said,
“Whoever tries to be patient, God will help him be patient.”
Patience is a key to Paradise. So we should practice patience when you their is sadness and everything seems impossible because it is the only way to relief and happiness. No one can help us except God, so we should try our best to please God.