Do you hate someone? ; Do you really hate someone? ; You haven’t spoken to him for a while?. You’ve been blaming him?
You’re not the only one. The Muslim Ummah today is diseased with this to the extent. that almost every Muslim knows another Muslim who he hates.
OK then, he wronged you. He deceived you. He backbites you. He lied to you. But even in these extreme situations. The Qur’an and the Hadith teach us that we have to forgive others (especially those who hurt us the most). if we wish to earn the forgiveness of Allah on the day of Judgement. We have all committed many sins. made many mistakes and no doubt we have wronged others. we have deceived others, we have backbit-ed others and no doubt we have lied to others.
So what makes us focus onto brothers’ and sisters’ errors while we remain unconscious of our own. Not to forgive is like to live in arrogance, and ignorance of our own shortcomings.
Forgiveness is linked with piety and God-consciousness. Is there anybody who is not without sin? Is there anybody who can be arrogant enough to say that he does not need to forgive that he’s right to hate? Do we not know that Allah forgives those who forgive others? Therefore, we should realize the difficulties of others and forgive them. Allah says in the Qur’an:
“Be quick in the forgiveness from your Lord. and pardon (all) men – for Allah loves those who do good.” [Surat Ale Imran; 3:133-134]
Allah loves us to have hearts that are ready to forgive. so do not hate.
ONCE UPON A TIME…
If we look at the character of the Prophet (peace be upon him) we can see that he was always forgiving. And never showed enmity (nor hate) to anyone except those who waged war against him. There was an old lady who used to throw rubbish in his way every day. on one occasion she did not throw rubbish in the street. so he decided to go and see what was the matter. She was ill in bed, to her amazement, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) came to see her and find out about her. She accepted Islam.
This is the example of the man whom we claim to follow. Thumamah, as the chief of his tribe had killed many Muslims. On his travels, he was caught by the Muslim soldiers. and was taken to the Prophet’s masjid and tied to one of the pillars. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) commanded his companions to untie him and give him the best food. The Prophet (peace be upon him) was indeed a mercy for the worlds.
We should similarly be merciful with each other. First of all, we ourselves should not do anything to upset our brothers and sisters. Because this is in itself a part of mercy. And then we should forgive those who have upset us or made us angry. We will never be a strong Ummah if we are not able to forgive. and if we continue to reap hate in our hearts.
Some might say that to forgive is a sign of weakness and humiliation. and for them it is better to be strong and preserve their honor. But honor in the eyes of Allah lies in forgiveness… 🙂
“But indeed if any shows patience and forgives. that would truly be an exercise of courageous will and resolution in the conduct of affairs.”
[Surat Ash-Shuraa 42:43]
If we are to be really strong then we have to be strong against devil and forgive our brothers and sisters. and in this way maybe Allah will decide in Sha-Allah to forgive ourselves for our many mistakes.
” …Honor in the eyes of Allah lies in Forgiveness…”