Parents status in Islam
All religions and all societies have given Parents an honorable status and so is the parents status in islam. From a purely material viewpoint, we find ourselves indebted to our Parents, particularly our mother. She not only nourished us in her womb, but went through pain and suffering. She loved us even before we were born. She toiled when we were totally helpless infants. She spent sleepless nights caring for us.
Our Parents as a team provided for all our needs: Physical, Educational, Psychological, and in many instances, Religious, Moral, and Spiritual. Our indebtedness to our Parents is so immense that it is not possible to repay it fully.It becomes obligatory for us to show the utmost Kindness, Respect, and Obedience to our Parents. The position, mutual obligations, responsibilities and parents status in islam have been addressed in Islam in great detail.
The Qur’anic commandments, as well as the sayings of Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) guide us in this matter. The parent-child code of behavior in Islam is unique, since rules were laid down by Divine command.
References to Parents have been made in the Holy Qur’an. There are numerous traditions of the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) on this subject.
“And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is thy final goal.” (Surat Luqmān 31:14)
According to the above verse, gratitude to Allah and to parents go hand in hand. Gratitude to Allah is incomplete without showing gratitude to one’s parents. Since being grateful to Allah is a form of ibadah (worship) which earns heavenly rewards, it can therefore be said that being grateful to one’s parents also earns heavenly rewards. Such is the parents status in islam.
“Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or more attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them,but address them in terms of honor.And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say, “my Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy, even as they cherished me in childhood.” (Surat Al-Isrā 17: 23,24)
“We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth.”(Surat Al-Ahqāf 46:15)
Thus, Allah has enjoined on us to show kindness, respect, and humility to our parents. We are commanded to do this, even though they may have injured us. The only exception to the above command is made in the following verse:
“We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; but if they strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not.” (Surat Al-Ankabūt 29:8)
TRADITIONS OF PROPHET (PEACE BE UPON HIM)
Some of the traditions of Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him), and of the learned members of his family, about our responsibilities toward our parents are quoted here:
“Paradise lies under the feet of the mother.”
“Allah’s pleasure is in the pleasure of the father, and Allah’s displeasure is in the displeasure of the father.”
“He who wishes to enter Paradise through its best door must please his parents.”
“It is a pity that some people may not attain Paradise, on account of not serving their old parents.”
“If a person looks with love at his parents, Allah writes in his favor the reward equal to the performance of one Hajj.” [Someone asked, “will this promise be good if one looks at his parents one hundred times a day?” The Holy Prophet (Peace be upon him) replied, “even if one does so a hundred thousand times a day, Allah gives the reward accordingly.”]
“A man or woman is bound to be good to his or her parents, even though they may have injured him or her.”
According to one of the Hadith-e-Qudsi, the following is reported about parents status in islam :
“Allah has commanded that if anybody prays equal to the invocations performed by the prophets, such prayers will do no good if that person has been cursed by his or her parents.”
It has also been related that the very first words which have been written on the Lauh-e-Mahfuz (The Heavenly Preserved Tablet) are:
“I am Allah, and there is no deity except Me. I am pleased with those with whom their parents are pleased, and I am displeased with those with whom their parents are displeased.”
Islam has assigned certain duties to Parents that they must fulfill. If they fail in those, they will be questioned about it. Besides providing the basic necessities of life. Islam requires that the Parents teach their children about the Oneness of Allah. the Quranic commandments, values, the Prophets and their teachings, and the moral code of Islam. As according to the Qur’an and the Sunnah (teachings) of the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him).
Let us Pray to Allah that He guide us to be Respectful, Kind, and Obedient to our Parents. And that we continue to show them humility regardless of the power, position, wealth, and influence we may possess. Let us also Pray that we be Patient, Kind, Thoughtful, and Friendly with our Children. As we guide them through their lives, and that we discharge our responsibilities towards them as required by our religion. So that Allah may be pleased with us, and may He Bless and reward us, both in this world and in the Hereafter Ameen.