Start with a short story today as you know sometimes short stories convey Great messages. It’s a story of an old Frail man who went to live with his son, daughter-in-law and a four-year old grandson. In this falling age the old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight blurred, and his step faltered. The family eat together nightly at the dinner table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made it rather difficult eating with them. Meal sometimes slipped off his spoon onto the floor and often milk spilled on the tablecloth when he grasped the glass. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with this mess.
Wooden Bowl for Father:
“We must do something about Father” said the son to his wife. I have had enough of his noisy eating, spilled milk and food on the floor.The husband and wife set a small table in the corner of room. There, grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family used to enjoy dinner at the dinner table. As grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. Sometimes when the family glanced in grandfather’s direction, he had tears in his eye as he ate alone still he got no mercy. The four-years old watched it all in silence.
One evening the young man noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making son?” Just as sweetly, the boy replied, “Oh, I am making a little WOODEN BOWL for you and Mom to eat your food from when I will grow up.”
The four-years old smiled and went back to his work. The words so struck the parents that they were simply speechless. The small child made them realized that what have they given to old father after such long journey of life, ‘A Wooden Bowl’. That evening the young man took his Father’s hand and gently led him back to the family table.The story ends HAPPILY here but with a great message for all of us.
We think children don’t have as much observation powers as of elders but Remember, children are remarkably perceptive. Their eyes ever observe, their ears ever listen, and their innocent minds ever process the messages they absorb from their surroundings. If they see us patiently provide a happy home atmosphere for family members, they will surely imitate that attitude for the rest of their lives. The wise parents realize that every day the building blocks are being laid for the child’s future.
Here we got two perspectives:
Parents need more attention and love in their old times. Their old bodies and weak senses are testing point of ours so they should neither be ignored nor be disgraced.
Children’s minds are like clean board it’s up to parents what they are going to write on it at once because what they write on it they are going to get it from them in future. You can either make them like a fruitful tree that will provide you Fruit and Shelter after growing up or like one who will make a wooden bowl for you.
Let’s have a look what Islam says on this matter through Quran and Hadith.
“And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents” [Al-Qur’an 29: 8]
“Your Lord has decreed (commanded) that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents...” [Al-Qur’an 17: 23]
“The Lord is pleased with the pleasing of the parents, and the Lord is angry with him who angers the parents.” [Saheeh al-Jamee (3500) ]
“A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it.”[Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 :Narrated byAbud Darda ]
These are few, there are lot more that describe the importance and value of parents.This is like a chain. Today you give respect, love and honor to your parents and tomorrow you will get it all from your children InshaAllah. Let us all be wise builders and role models for our children.
It is the time to Choose Yourself what do you want to take with you in your old time.A WOODEN BOWL or A FRUITFUL TREE.