The Prophet (SAW) stressed the rights and parents’ respect in Islam. The Prophet (SAW) also focused on the responsibilities of their children in the same way he focused on the children’s rights and their parents’ responsibilities.
Parents are to be treated well at all times. The Almighty’s blessings in having empowered you to do this virtuous act are considered an extraordinary resource in this world and the Hereafter because the appreciation we should pay our parents respect has been over and over underlined in the Holy Quran. So, In one of the verses, Allah says.
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوٓا۟ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَٰنًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا
And your Lord has decreed that you do not worship except Him and to parents the best [treatment]. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.
Recognition and parents’ respect are specified eleven times in the Quran. And In every occurrence, Allah reminds children to admire the care, love, and affection they got from their parents. For example, in one viewpoint, Allah demands parents respect for their children by saying:
وَوَصَّيْنَا ٱلْإِنسَٰنَ بِوَٰلِدَيْهِ حُسْنًا ۖ وَإِن جَٰهَدَاكَ لِتُشْرِكَ بِى مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِۦ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَآ ۚ إِلَىَّ مَرْجِعُكُمْ فَأُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ
And We have enjoined upon the human being goodness to parents. But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you do not know, do not obey them. To Me is your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do.
Difficulties parents face for their children
Allah mentioned in the Quran,
وَوَصَّيْنَا ٱلْإِنسَٰنَ بِوَٰلِدَيْهِ إِحْسَٰنًا ۖ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُۥ كُرْهًا وَوَضَعَتْهُ كُرْهًا ۖ وَحَمْلُهُۥ وَفِصَٰلُهُۥ ثَلَٰثُونَ شَهْرًا ۚ حَتَّىٰٓ إِذَا بَلَغَ أَشُدَّهُۥ وَبَلَغَ أَرْبَعِينَ سَنَةً قَالَ رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِىٓ أَنْ أَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ ٱلَّتِىٓ أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَىَّ وَعَلَىٰ وَٰلِدَىَّ وَأَنْ أَعْمَلَ صَٰلِحًا تَرْضَىٰهُ وَأَصْلِحْ لِى فِى ذُرِّيَّتِىٓ ۖ إِنِّى تُبْتُ إِلَيْكَ وَإِنِّى مِنَ ٱلْمُسْلِمِينَ
And We have enjoined upon the human being, regarding his parents, the best [treatment]. His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship, and his gestation and weaning [period] are thirty months. [He grows] until, when he reaches maturity and reaches [the age of] forty years, he says, “My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work the righteousness of which You will approve and make righteous for me my offspring. Indeed, I have repented to You, and indeed, I am of the Muslims.”
Pleasing the Parents Causes Allah’s Pleasure:
Parents’ respect plays a vital role in pleasing Allah. Therefore, any individual who tries to please Allah ought to win the great joy of his parents. So, keeping the parents very satisfied is vital since their anger and disappointment will prompt Allah’s anger and displeasure. Therefore, the Prophet (SAW) said:
“In the good pleasure of the father lies the good pleasure of the Creator, and in his displeasure lies the displeasure of the Creator.”
Serving the Parents Is Preferable to Jihaad:
When a person gives importance to parents’ respect and needs his assistance and consideration, he should serve them rather than go to Jihaad. A person once came to the Prophet (SAW) and said he wanted to participate in the Jihaad.
The Prophet asked him, “Are your parents alive?”
“Yes, they are alive,” he replied.
The Prophet said. “Then strive in their service and assist them at the time of their need. (This is your Jihaad.)”
Great Sin For Disobeying the Parents:
The Prophet (SAW) declared the parent’s respect and that serving one’s parents well is an act of great virtue; he condemned the showing of disobedience to them, or harming them, as a most severe and detestable sin.
The Prophet (SAW) has said
“To abuse one’s parents is also a major sin.”
“Can anyone abuse his parents?” “Yes,” the Prophet replied, “If a person abused someone else’s parents and that person, in retaliation, abused his parents – then it is as though he had abused them.”
From Allah and his Prophet (SAW) above sayings, we can see the importance of parents’ respect in Islam.