Don’t you like when someone relies on you and believes in your intentions? We are sure; it FEELS GREAT to be trusted by people. Without being trust worthy, one cannot be a good friend, custodian, Leader! And even a good Parent. Let us learn whom should we put our trusts in, why to trust people and suggestions to help people building trust in us and our relationships.
Who should we trust?
Do you know who we trust the most in our lives? One who is Sincere and shows Consistency in his/her sincerity. Hence we do not trust who is either insincere or inconsistent. Agreed?
Isn’t it that at times Mum will lie us about things like she does not have sufficient money to give us for a lunch with our friends and Dad will not give his car to us less we may dent it? Aren’t these the times we feel our parents are not consistent in their love and sincerity? Yes they are because they are also faced with the human limitations. We will shortly get to learn how to ignore small things in our trustful relationships. building trust
So, who do you find more consistent than Allah? He is Most Sincere and Most Consistent since He says He does not change His way:building trust
“…..But you will never find in the way of Allah any change, and you will never find in the way of Allah any alteration.”
Since He is our Creator and The Mentor, we must always always trust Him and believe that He will only choose the best for us and will save us from all the harms. Even if He is favoring someone else that does not mean this favor costs us something like what happens in the worldly matters where one is gifted by depriving someone else.
“And when My servants question thee concerning Me, then surely I am right. I answer the prayer of the suppliant when he crieth unto Me. So let them hear My call and let them Trust in Me, in order that they may be led a right.”
Does that mean not to trust anyone but Allah? Can we then lead a peaceful life where we do not trust anyone? NO. Trust is a basis of our enjoyable relationships. Allah does not forbid us from trusting others but He does tell us who we should trust and why:building trust
“And do not Trust except those who follow your religion.”
Therefore we must trust those who obey Allah, are truthful, honest and finally sincere and consistent. This trust will lessen burdens from our shoulders that arise from mistrust, fear of being deceived and mislead. While trusting we must remember, whatever you do, whoever you love/befriend/deal with, do so for the sake of Allah.
“And in Allah should the believers put their trust.”
Trust people and rely on Allah that He will not leave you alone in the hands of people. He says:building trust
“If Allah helps you, none can overcome you; and if He forsakes you, who is there after Him that can help you? And in Allah (Alone) let believers put their Trust. ”
How to build Trust:
Let’s us now learn how to develop trust in our relationships:
- Say what you mean and mean what you say.
- Listen and convey understanding
- Resolve disagreements directly and in good faith
- Seek win/win outcomes
- Honor confidential information
- Take responsibility for mistakes
- Share information openly
- Involve others in decisions affecting them
- Avoid actions leading to mistrust e.g. politics, gossips, blaming, undercutting etc.
- Create emotional bank accounts with people.
- Don’t allow self interest to overcome social interests.
All people are not the same:
Finally, when we are on our journey through trusting people, remember friends that everybody is not alike. Once you have experienced that someone has cheated, be careful in trusting them next time. Allah mentions in AlQuran:
“And among the People of the Scripture is he who, if you entrust him with a great amount [of wealth], he will return it to you. And among them is he who, if you entrust him with a [single] silver coin, he will not return it to you unless you are constantly standing over him [demanding it]. That is because they say, “There is no blame upon us concerning the unlearned.” And they speak untruth about Allah while they know [it].” 3:75
Friends: I have learned while my research for this topic that Allah Loves those who trust Him! Interesting, right? Let’s trust Him in every endeavor of our lives 🙂