Dear brothers and sisters if you are married then you should definitely go ahead reading this interesting article about the rights of the husband, to bring the revolutions in your married life. If not then you should also read to gain knowledge for your future life. Marriage is half of the deen (faith). If you are married or getting married you are fulfilling a religious duty. Completing half of your Emaan (faith). So here you are:
In order to make your married life happiest Allah, the Almighty has prescribed the list of duties and responsibilities for both the spouses. This list if followed is a confirmation of marital bliss for the spouses. So dear fellows we see many separated and sad spouses. Let us tell you that these marital problems. These are due to the fact that we are not following the rules and regulations. Given by Allah for the happy married life. So dear ladies and gents don’t worry we are here to tell you the solutions. And give you an overlook to be a happy married Muslim Family (in sha Allah).
What Are The Rights Of Husband Over Wife?
It is the right of the Husband that he should be respected in all situations unless he is forcing his wife to go against Islamic Obligation.
The relationship between husband and wife is built on the basis of trust. It is the duty of the wife to be loyal to his Husband and share everything with him honestly.
3. Respect His Opinion
If the husband doesn’t like someone then the wife should not allow those persons in the house.
It was narrated that Jaabir said: [the Prophet] (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
“Fear Allah concerning women. Verily you have taken them on the security of Allah, and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by words of Allah. You too have rights over them, and that they should not allow anyone to sit on your bed [i.e., not let them into the house] whom you do not like. But if they do that, you can chastise them but not severely. Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner” (Narrated by Muslim, 1218)
The same goes for things and setup of home. The opinion of the husband should be respected in all matters of the house.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (R.A) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“It is not permitted for a woman to fast when her husband is present without his permission. Or to admit anyone into his house without his permission. And whatever she spends (in charity) of his wealth without his consent, ….”
(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4899; Muslim, 1026)
4. Women Is Responsible For Husband’s Property
It is not allowed for women to give anything to someone without the permission and consent of his husband as the Holy Prophet (SAW) said that,
“The woman is the guardian of her husband’s house and is responsible for it.”
5 Sexual Rights
It includes in the rights of husband that once the conditions of the marriage-contract have been fulfilled and it is valid. Then the woman is obliged to submit herself to her husband and allow him to enjoy her (physically) because once the contract is completed, he is allowed in return to enjoy her, and the wife is entitled to the compensation which is the mahr.
It is Narrated by Abu Ali Talq ibn Ali that The Prophet (saws) said:
‘When a man sends for his wife for the satisfaction of his need, she should go to him even if she may be occupied in baking bread.’
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 284
Dear sisters Allah has also promised to give great rewards to wives for fulfilling their husband’s rights.
Our beloved Holt Prophet (SAW) said that :
“Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah.”
Husband’s Duties To His Wife
Allah Says in the Surah Nisaa verse 34:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other. And because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard (their chastity, their husband’s honor, property, etc.).”
1. Financial Support
The first and foremost responsibility of the husband is to take responsibility to maintain the financial setup of the house. The husband is responsible to take care of the needs of his wife.
“Let him who has abundance spend of his abundance, and he whose provision is measured, let him spend of that which Allah has given him. Allah asks naught of any soul save that which He has given it. Allah will vouchsafe, after hardship, ease.”
If a wife wants to support his husband financially she can do this also. But it is not giving financial support to the family is not compensatory for the wife as a husband.
As it is obligatory for the wife to respect her husband the husband is also obliged to respect his wife. Give attention to his opinion and be polite to her.
3. Be Partners In Decision Making Process
A husband should always trust his wife. Share all the problems with him as the Holy Prophet (SAW) said that the husband and wife are like garments for each other. It is compensatory for the spouses to be sincere to each other and not bring the secrets between them in the knowledge of any third person.
4. Be Patient And Tolerating
The keyword behind any happy Islamic marriage is “tolerance “, i.e. don’t make excuses to your spouse uselessly rather you should discuss the matters.
The Prophet Muhammad (SAW):
“No one likes seeking excuses (for people) more than Allah, and for that He had sent the givers of glad tidings and the warners.”
(Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
If the wife makes any mistake them a husband should be tolerated in a way that he should peacefully and calm fully talk to her about the matter. Try to resolve the issue by dialogue instead of fighting and beating his wife.
The Prophet (s) said:
“Do not beat your wife.”
He also said:
“Do not strike your wife in the face.”
Our Holy Prophet (saw) has condemned the man who beats his wife in the day and then approaches her at night. And to beat her to the extent of inflicting serious injury is enough grounds for her to obtain a divorce from the judge.
The husband should take care of the wife in all matters of life. Especially he should care for the fulfillment of her sexual needs. If a wife asks for intercourse he should not deny her, unless due to any medical ailment.
So dear brothers and sisters If you trust, obey, and follow the commands and guidance of Almighty Allah and Prophet (SAW) then it can be assured that you will of never ever be misled. Going away from these guidelines can be assured of being strayed and making your marital life sad and conflicting as well as going to the wrong path (God forbid).