Short Guide for Muslim Parents.
It’s a tremendous job to raise kids. Starting from manners to habits and behavior, parents are responsible for everything about their child. However, this responsibility doubles when it comes to raising Muslim children. Sometimes, we become too protective of our children and try to provide them all sorts of comfort. However, there must be a distinction between what’s necessary and access. Extremes are always dangerous, and to raise our children as good Muslims, we need to identify the modest path. Some mothers don’t like to teach their daughters how to cook or do house chores so that their beautiful girls don’t lose their elegance; similarly, some fathers sower money on their children and never deny any of the material demands of children. In this way, such parents incorporate negligence and ignorance of kindness in their children.
As Muslim parents, we must be vigilant in raising Muslim children. Sadly, the practice is contrary to what should be adopted. Some parents are too strict, while some too careless about bringing up their children as Muslims. Keep in mind one thing, as a Muslim parent, you are going to contribute a person in society. Thus, as Muslim parents, our contribution to the community must be very positive. If they cannot carry the burden of others, we must raise Muslim children to be self-dependent at least. This article will give you some quick tips on how to grow Islamic children to be independent. The tips inspired by the interview of Queen Rania of Jordan said when Oprah asked her how do you raise your children & they are royalty?
How to raise Muslim children to be self-dependent:
- Tell your children to do their original stuff by themselves and be less dependent on servants and maids.
- Children must clean and tidy up their rooms themselves.
- Develop the habit of self-serving in your children. Getting oneself a glass of water is not going to rip off their respect even if there are plenty of servants at your home.
- Fix a day, like the weekend, when your children must arrange their cupboard.
- Try to organize the timings or occasions of receiving gifts. For example, your children must expect less any reward other than Eid days.
- People raise boys to be dependent on their mothers and sisters in Muslim households. This habit sometimes leads to stereotypical behavior that Muslim societies accused. Involve your boys in house chores.
- Relate examples and stories of Prophets and Sahaabas and how they managed their affairs self-dependently.
Once Omar bin Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) was with his companions at night, a gust of wind came & blew out the lantern! So Omar bin Al-Khattab got up & re-lit the torch, his friends spoke:
If only you asked one of us, O’Amir of the believers,
What harm has this brought me? I got up & I am Omar,
I return & I am Omar.
Above mentioned incident shows that doing your chores yourself isn’t hazardous but making other people feel lesser than you is.
It is indeed an arduous task to raise kids, primarily to raise Muslim children. However, we as Muslim parents must not give up our efforts in making our children perfect human beings and perfect Muslims.