An unhappy marriage is hard to deal with. In the Quran, Allah says,
“Allah has created you in pairs so you may find comfort in each other.”
Everyone has a different marriage story; they survive in different environments with different thinking.
Marriage is the union of two souls. There is no doubt that a good marriage is hard and that happiness in a good marriage may take some time. Marriage is not and cannot always be a happy fairy tale. So it is necessary to manage an unhappy marriage. It is real life, and as Muslims, we know that this life is only temporary and that We can find everlasting happiness in the Hereafter.
So if you’re currently unhappy with your marriage story, I pray that Allah makes it easy for you and blesses you with its comforts and serenity (Ameen). Here are some tips for managing an unhappy marriage into a good one.
It too shall pass with an Unhappy Marriage:
Muslims know that this life is filled with trials and tribulations. An unhappy marriage may be one of these experiments. As with any testing, it is vital to stay patient. Please consider the other trials you have been through and how you made it this far. Like those trials, this too shall pass, which is how one can manage an unhappy marriage.
In an unhappy marriage, you have to address two issues.
• Being compelled to remain in a fruitless marriage
• Treading some unacceptable way.
Concerning the first matter, if the spouse has endeavoured to resolve issues influencing the marriage through family older folks, mentoring, mediation, and expert assistance, she won’t be wicked if she looks to cut off the marriage beyond reconciliation possibility.
Concerning the subsequent matter, one should stay in the way of goodness. There is no reason to take part in wrongdoing and offence. On the off chance that one has misery and stress, one ought to quickly look for help through clinical specialists and treatment. It is likewise essential to be encircled by noble individuals.
Trust in Allah in your Marriage Story:
Allah (SWT) loves those who put their trust in Him. Allah is the Only One who knows what you are genuinely going through, and He Alone can bring you comfort and remove your sorrows. So ask Allah for help and trust in Him. Know that everything happens for a reason. An unhappy marriage is a test from Allah, and one should observe patience and place their faith in Him.
Allah (SWT) knows best for Your Problems of Unhappy Marriage:
Recall the verse,
يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ لَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَرِثُوا۟ ٱلنِّسَآءَ كَرْهًا ۖ وَلَا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُوا۟ بِبَعْضِ مَآ ءَاتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ إِلَّآ أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَٰحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ ۚ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِٱلْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰٓ أَن تَكْرَهُوا۟ شَيْـًٔا وَيَجْعَلَ ٱللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا
O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit clear immorality [i.e., adultery]. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them – perhaps you dislike a thing, and Allāh makes therein much good.
(4:19).
Allah is the Master of the Universe. He is the Controller of all of our affairs. Only Allah knows what is suitable for us and wrong for us. Know that everything Allah (SWT) does has goodness in it. Our limited knowledge may not grasp it, but knowing that Allah has our best interest at heart should bring comfort.
If one or both of you are truly unhappy in your marriage to the extent that it impacts your deen, know that Allah has provided a solution for the wedding to be dissolved if one finds it necessary. Of course, this is the last resort, and I pray that Allah (SWT) blesses us with the comforts of righteous spouses and children so that they are the coolness of our eyes. Ameen
