Good manners are one of the most attaining happiness in the home. A suitable manner is very beneficial between spouses. And with the children, and brings results that cannot be achieved through harshness.
Good manners are essential in the home and between spouses. Helping with household chores, showing affection towards family members, and avoiding actions that may cause discomfort are good manners. Hazrat Aisha RA and Hazrat Muhammad (PBUH) emphasized the importance of kindness and good manners in the household.
Hazrat Aisha R.A narrated that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said:
“When Allah (SWT) wills some good towards the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them.”
[Reported by Imaam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/71; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 303].
Good Manners With Wife:
Helping your wife with the housework is counted as good manners. Many men think that housework is beneath women’s. And some of them think that it will weaken their status or position if they help their wives with housework. But, if a man helps his wife with the housework, it counts well for the men.
Hazrat Muhammad ﷺsaid:
“Sew his clothes, mend his shoes and do whatever other work men do in their homes.”
[Reported by Imaam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/121; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4927].
Some men demand food instantly from their wives when the pot is on the stove and the baby is screaming to be fed. They do not pick up the child or wait a little while for the food. This act of the men counts as bad manners. A man with good manners will not do this.
Hazrat Aisha R.A said :
“He used to serve his family, and when the time for prayer came, he would go out to pray.”
[Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 2/162].
Showing Affections Towards Children:
Showing affection towards your wife and children is one thing that creates an atmosphere of happiness and friendliness in the home. If a man shows good manners towards his family, then it is evident that his children will also adopt good manners, which is the best thing.
How Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ showed affection towards young children is too famous. He often used to show his affection towards Hasan and Hussain. The reason why the children rejoiced when Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ came back from traveling, and they would rush to welcome him.
“Whenever he came back from a journey, the children of his household would be taken out to meet him.”
Good manners of women include staying at home and avoiding going out without the husband’s permission. So, A women with good manners stay quiet in front of her husband. And she is obliged to protect her and her husband’s honor. The righteous women protect her honor and her husband’s possessions when he is absent. And that counts the most in a reasonable manner of women.
How to act with your parents in Good manners?
Good manners towards parents are highly emphasized and considered a fundamental aspect of a Muslim’s faith. Some ways to behave with parents according to Islamic teachings are:
- Show respect to your parents by speaking to them kindly and respectfully, avoiding disrespectful speech and behavior.
- Obey your parents as long as it does not involve sin.
- Express gratitude for the sacrifices and efforts of your parents.
- Treat your parents with kindness, patience, and compassion, especially as they age.
- Provide physical, emotional, and financial support to your parents as needed.
- Forgive your parents for any mistakes or misunderstandings.
- Pray for your parents and ask for Allah’s blessings and guidance.
Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ said:
“The paradise is under the feet of your mother.”
[Reported by Bukhari and Muslim].
It highlights the significance of good manners towards parents in Islam.