Islam is a religion of freedom and justice. Which empowers great privileges and rights to women. Often there is a misconception about status of women in Islam, especially when it comes to liberality of women, it is thought Islam doesn’t allow them to breath outside the home. Whereas, in reality it is not so.We see many working muslim women. Islam does allow women to work and interact in environment but with certain limitations and margins which are for her own benefits.
Often working muslim women are much worried about their interaction with others, while they are out of their home for, e.g. job, education, or any other purpose. So here are some tips for our working muslim women, which may IN SHA ALLAH help them to follow Islam in a better way. And will help them to carry their worldly and religious matters side by side.
Be prepared for inevitable challenges:
When you are intending to spend time outside of your home, be mindful, there are a lot of challenges you would have to face. People are never ready to accept you, neither you will easily be adjusted in environment. You would have to make space for yourself, earn respect for yourself, and make people treat you the way you want. Above all these things, you have to take care of your matters with ALLAH. During all the time span you spend outside of home, nothing must displease ALLAH.
Don’t miss your salaah:
Often it is hard for females to find a place to offer prayer. As they cannot prayer openly anywhere like men do. So a good option could be to keep a little prayer mat or a neat piece of cloth in your bag. And whenever it’s time to offer prayer, you just have to search for a little corner, away from sight of people. Spread your prayer mat, and offer salah. It could be your own office, cabin, your class room, girls common room, or a try room in a shopping mall ( pretty good ideas 😛 ). Although you are working muslim women, but that does not exempts your from salaah.
Cover yourself properly:
That is the most important thing. Whenever you are out of home, you must be fully covered, so that no dirty sight can fall upon you. You cannot stop others from staring at you, but at least you could cover up you self decently. So that in akhira , you may be able to justify that you did everything to resist temptation and thus you are not guilty.
Now it doesn’t means that you must wear dull and boring ,out dated clothes. And have always a shabby appearance. You can choose decent colors and designs and wear them elegantly to appear a graceful lady.
Are you out for a right cause?
Think before you step out of home alone, Are you going outside for a right purpose, Is it necessary enough to leave your home without a mehram?
ALLAH subahana hu wa tala , and prophat Mohammad (peace be upon him) have disliked unnecessary wandering of women in markets or anywhere.
With special reference to wives and moms:
If you are married and have kids also, try to be at home prior to your husband and children. Any husband would like to have his wife at home, waiting for him in a good appearance and mood. If you reach home tired, while your husband is already waiting for you at home, it would surely have negative impacts on your married life. A muslim lady must ensure that her home and children are properly cared for. You must never compromise on brought up of your children, as your most important role is mother hood.
Some safety tips:
Obviously , there are a lot of security aspects you must concern about. So first of all, whenever you leave home recite aytal-kursi , surah Al-falaq and surah Al-naas. Seek protection from ALLAH subhana hu wa tala. Recite this dua as many times as you can:
Bismillâhil-ladhi lâ ya-durru ma’smihi shay’un fil urdi walâ fissamâi wa huwas sami’ul aleem
(I begin the day/night) in the name of Allah (SWT) by whose name nothing on earth and heaven can cause harm. He is All Hearing, All Knowing. (Muslim)
Moreover,try to keep in mind following things:
- Your cell phone must always be charged while going outside home. And in case it has low battery, stop using it until you get some place to charge it. Reserve that battery for any emergency use.
- Keep something in your purse or hand bag (whatever you always carry while going out) for your self-defense.
- Always wear comfortable shoes.
- Your wallet must never be completely empty. A good idea could be, to spare a little amount of money, in a side pocket of your wallet or purse. Which you must never spend, keep them for some emergency.
Be Vigilant of male colleagues:
While you are in your office, university, college etc. you might have to interact with male co-workers, class fellows or colleagues. Be careful in your attitude towards the opposite sex. Trust no one in this regard
- Never be alone with a person of opposite sex (whatever the circumstances are)
- Don’t reply to them in a sweet or lenient tone neither too harsh or disrespected tone. But try some way in middle.
- Avoid unnecessary talk or contact with male colleagues.
- Avoid discussing private issues. Pretend that you are least concerned with the matters out side your own life.
Summarizing all the above things, the very first point you have to keep in mind is, you will try your level best to please ALLAH , and be in the limits defined by islam. You have to maintain your boundaries. No one else would take care of your limits unless you define your limits yourself. Be a strong and dignified lady. Environment and circumstances are not always favorable but you have to effort for yourself to make them favorable. And in last, seek help from ALLAH subhana hu wa tala, in all above matters (and obviously in all other matters too). May ALLAH help us to follow Islam in right way and bestow steadfastness on the right path. Ameen.