Husbands and wives please don’t skip the page.Your spouse needs your support to improve themselves in the sight of Allah. Do you want to know, How can you lead from your spouses heart to jannah?.
A family, comes in balance only if the both wife and husband play their role in equilibrium. Obviously a balanced system is the one, whose contributing factors are in equilibrium. Islam , being a religion of peace and justice, give equal importance to both wife and husband. with their particular roles assigned to them.
Role of Wives:
Lets come towards the wives at first, have a look at following hadeeth;
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
“I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.” They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allah?”. He said, “Because of their ingratitude (kufr).” It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you. she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1052) .
We women immediately say ‘’Ungrateful, how? We cook food for them, wash their clothes, give birth and take care of their children, house, money etc. What more can we do??” Yes we do everything for them but we also talk ill about them in their presence and absence. We keep complaining no matter how much they do for us.
Men work so hard all day to give us a comfort living in all sense. For small reasons we women make a big issue, and keep our mood off when they arrive after a tired day. We rarely put ourselves in their shoes. We simply don’t want to accept their hard work. To have beauty in your marital relationship, do admire your husband; say thanks to him for each little effort he does, never complain ill about him in front of your children. Cherish him, ask him about his day routine, when he returns home from work, you must welcome him with a beautiful smiling face.
Along with obeying your husband you are pleasing Allah, and about your education, you have a generation in the form of children in front of you…Pass your knowledge onto them.
Characteristics of Good Wife:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) mentioned together three important characteristics to be found in the good, righteous wife.
(i) When he looks at her, he is happy with her religious commitment, attitude, behavior and appearance.
(ii) When he is away from her, she protects his honor and his wealth.
(iii) If he tells her to do something, she obeys him, so long as he does not tell her to commit sin.
In short we can conclude the fact that if a woman sincerely craves for Jannah she has to keep her spouses heart happy, by obeying him and being content with what he provides. It is of course not a very difficult task I guess…
Make first Move:
Once you start living a life like that you see the change in your husband which would definitely make your love story like that which are read in books .
Let’s make the first move by not complaining about our husband to our friends and family and as a second stage be careful never to disobey him. Rest of the tasks will become easier as we start getting closer to Allah through His Quran.
I believe being a woman is one of the greatest blessings from Allah. We get a chance to give birth to a tiny life and grow him/her into a righteous human who benefits the whole world.
“If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter into Paradise.” (Ibn Majah and Tirmidhi)
The hadees is a one sentence explaining the whole article…
Just remind yourself about it and every task of your will become easy. You can also make a print out of it and put it on your refrigerator so that whenever you lose your temper you will be able to control it.
(and rest of the part of article, about the men , would be discussed in next episode of article IN SHA ALLAH )